I have this post that I cannot put up on my blog maybe you can help.
Last year I slept with my best friend’s boyfriend and after I did he broke up with her without giving her any reason. She has been coming to me telling me how things were right until sometime last September when the guy did not seem interested. She knows that this guy is my very good friend and she has been asking me to trick him into telling me why they broke up. I know the reason he did coz he told me he could not stop thinking about that one night and beside he had feelings for me. From the time they broke up he has been asking me out but because I know two wrongs can’t make it right I decided not to get involved. His persistence has eventually made me develop feelings for him. I am In a dilemma I don’t want to lose my friend (whom by the way I feel bad I have not told the truth about that night) and also this guy makes me feel good. What should I do?
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This is heart breaking.
Either way, the truth has a way of coming out and it would be best if you told her the truth. The dynamics of this act cannot be understated because three people are in this mix.
Truth is, you hurt your friend. And if she finds out, she will obviously hurt some more. You need to tell her. But like I said before this is not easy, you will have to summon up your courage.
To me you have two options. Either lose your friend, or keep lying to her. I am not saying you are actually going to lose her. But such a thing will obviously cause some rifts, I hope not serious. It depends on how you approach it. Talk to her, I think it's best. If she throws you out, sadly, that will be a loss, coz she is your best friend, but know you won't be living a lie.
You need God's strength right here. I pray you come through fine.
Sometimes i think it's best to leave some things unsaid but yours is a tough one.. Lokk at the 2 people involved who do you treasure most? Tell your BF the truth if she forgives you wll and good move on and forget the guy. If she throws you out Phew get on with the guy life is too short (i am a bitch i know) but don't lose both
I agree with be silent...some things are better left unsaid...i think if you tell your best friend the truth.. she will hurt very much tho it does depend on your level of friendship whether you will remain friends..true love Forgives and forgets..but are you willing to risk it...?
you were not a loyal friend. and the best thing to do is break up with your girlfriend, because when she finds out(and she will find out believe me) she will not feel very betrayed. and as a rule, you can not move out with that guy!!!!!!! it is wrong! stop.
Wama Mimi dont let your friend go,and to hell with your friends boyfriend do one thing,,move out with me lol,,,YOU BE HOW?
Anonymous, Do not tell her....what ever you do, do not tell her as yet. That would ruin your good relationship....instead tell her he's made a move on you and you kinda like him but don't want to get into him given their past...
But again how did you even start sleeping with your Bf's boy? He might do the same with you.
well.. finally i get to be an agony auntie.. yes!!!
Here's the deal... systematically break from both of them.
Like antipop said, she will find out n under no circumstances can u hook up with the guy.. if he did it to her, he will do it to you and yadi yadi yah!
and errr... yes.. its tight at urs!!!!
Disclaimer: The things i say here r for the greater good. welcome to blogville M
Now: You betrayed her. Simple truth. To move out with him means u r a selfish & insensitive gundi. Just don't! I'll bite your head off if u do
i'm suprised yo still calling her yo friend.
You should tell her. It will be a double betrayal when she finds out from someone else, like she's been stabbed twice. The friendship is practically over. If you tell her she might forgive you but she won't ever truly trust you again and you probably won't ever trust yourself around her.
With the guy. Take a look at yourself and what you want. Is he who you want? Other people shouldn't matter in a decision like that. Look at the way he's treated his past girlfriends, do you want to be treated like that? If he cheated on one, then he'll probably cheat on you too and you won't have ignorance to hide behind when it happens.
you're in a really tough position
Oh my Oh my Oh my...
shit happens.
this story sounds way 2 familiar...i'm in a very similar situation, but i'm more of in the boyfriends position...
you need 2 choose though, between your friend and the guy. u cant have them both...someone is gonna get hurt...and it might be you.
P.S. Your not a heartless back stabing bitch, dont beat urself up abt it,shit happens, u just need 2 find a way 2 fix this...
P.P.S its easier 2 tell her in writting. write her a long, deep, heart felt letter...give her time to think about it, then face her face 2 face later. face 2 face confrontations never turn out right and u never get 2 say what u want 2 say...
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